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The Most Common Baby Questions Keeping You Up at Night

Psssst. You over there.

Yes you.

I know It’s 3 a.m., but I still see you, new mama. You have a nursing baby in your arms and some leftover mascara smudged underneath your eyes. The room is cloaked in darkness, but your face is well-lit by your iPhone screen.

I know that you feel like you’re in over your head. You’re overwhelmed and anxious, so you’re doing what any new millennial mother would do in times of uncertainty or confusion:  You’re turning to Google to answer all your baby questions.

The Truth About Google and the
Answers to Your Baby Questions

I see you, new mama, because I was you as a new mama.

When my oldest daughter was a baby, I spent the majority of my middle of the night feeding sessions asking Google all my most pertinent infant-related questions and then wondering why nobody thought to warn me about things like sleep regressions or growth spurts.

And as I sifted through search results, I discovered two things:

  1. The vast majority of my Google searches led me to forums–places where other moms were exchanging questions, ideas, and suggestions.
  2. Many of those forums contain a lot of un-cited “research” and emotional non-expert opinions that left me with even more uncertainty.

Now, I don’t know about you, but when I have a baby question, I want facts from a reputable source. Connie from Kansas might not think I have anything to worry about, but she’s not staring into the face of my sweet babe.

So, what you’ll find here are all the questions that literally kept me up in the middle of the night when my own face was illuminated by my iPhone screen and the well-researched answers that helped get me through it all.

Use this article (and the rest of MightyMoms.club) as a resource you can return to time and time again.

In fact, I’m hoping you’ll  even pass this along to your first-time mom friends! After all, friends don’t make friends anguish under the weight of all those unanswered Mommy Questions and Baby Frets!

Baby Question #1:
Will I always feel like
a milk cow or a formula bar?

Nobody warned me that the precious angel I brought home from the hospital would soon turn into a ravenous, bottomless pit.

And, just so we’re clear, I’m talking to the breastfeeding mama AND the formula-feeding mama, here. The point is, you’re feeding. And, at some point in those early days, your baby just won’t stop eating.

For the first month of my son’s life, I basically sat on the couch and nursed him from 7 p.m. until 10 p.m. every. single. night.

In those early days with a newborn, cluster feeding can be worrisome, and your mind starts to spin.

  • Is he getting enough milk?
  • Am I producing enough milk?
  • Is something wrong with this formula?
  • Will I ever be freed from this couch?

Relax, mama. Cluster feeding is completely normal especially in those early weeks.

But I’ve never heard of cluster feeding! What is it? Don’t worry, friend, I hadn’t either. Basically, many babies will space their feedings closer together at a specific time during the day. Sooner than normal. At more frequent intervals.

I’m sorry to say that you might be confined to the couch every evening for a while. If you’re in the business of looking for silver linings, at least you’ll get good at doing things with one hand!

Now, here’s something else to think about in addition to the normal presence of cluster feeding: All babies go through growth spurts, and that can affect their eating habits as well.

In the early days, you might hit a growth spurt every couple of weeks. By month three, you might find a month or two stretch in between. Every baby is different, but if you find insatiable hunger in conjunction with fussiness or an interruption in sleep patterns, you might have a growth spurt on your hands.

Just remember this: The increased need for milk is most likely normal. Keep counting wet and dirty diapers and keep your water bottle nearby.

And if you are worried about milk intake, I think this is a helpful resource to assess how your baby is doing and when outside help might be needed.

Oh, what’s that you say? You have a million more breastfeeding questions? Fear not. Here are some additional articles you might want to check out!

And, formula-feeding mamas, we’ve got you covered too. Here are some articles that might answer any lingering questions you might still have!

Baby Question #2:
Why isn’t my baby sleeping
through the night anymore?

This one hit me hard. Lily, my first, started sleeping through the night pretty consistently around two months and then at four months, STOPPED.

Nobody warned me that this would happen!

So, now I’m telling you: Your sweet, sleeping baby might suddenly start waking up in the middle of the night again. She’s not doing it to destroy you; she’s just got a lot to learn and develop in those first years!

Yes, years. I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but there are multiple sleep regressions:

  • 3-4 month
  • 8-10 month
  • 18 month
  • 2 year

You might not hit them all (We avoided the 8-10 month regression with all our babies), but disruptions in sleep patterns are normal and *hopefully* shouldn’t last long.

Additionally, this super helpful article on sleep regressions contains some more specific information and ideas in case you are trying, like me, to figure out if coffee IV’s are a real thing and where they can be purchased.

Oh, and haaaave you met Heather? She and Amy can help too.

Baby Question #3:
What should I do if my baby has a fever?

Fevers can be scary especially when tiny babies are involved. One of my best friends is a pediatrician, and I’ve only sent her a fewhandful … dozen late night panicked texts with a feverish baby in my arms.

A fever, by technical definition, is anything 100.4° F (38° C) and above. Keep in mind that you should add a degree if you take that temperature under the armpit.  Your most accurate option with a baby is a rectal temperature, but, if you’re like me, you will probably avoid that option.

First, remember that fevers are not always bad. It’s the body’s way of working out an illness naturally; you just need to make sure it doesn’t get too high too fast.

The younger the baby, the quicker you respond (so make sure you have a good thermometer on hand).  If your baby is under one month and has a temperature above 100.4° F (38° C), you should take him to the emergency room immediately.

If your baby is OVER one-month and has a fever, call your doctor to let him know. You may not need to bring your baby in, but a good pediatrician is going to want to know that your baby is showing signs of illness, especially for babies younger than 6 months.

Heather tackled this issue of fevers much more comprehensively in this suuuper helpful article in case you want a good resource on hand and even made a great free “When to Call the Doctor” printable to hang on your fridge to help you figure out exactly when medical help is needed.

Baby Question #4:
Is this [insert baby’s skin condition here] normal?

Those kissable baby cheeks are one of the best parts about the newborn stage, aren’t they?

They’re so sweet and soft until suddenly you wake up one day and they’re covered in teenager-esque pimples.

Don’t worry, baby acne is normal. It usually hits around 2-3 weeks, but, chances are, she’ll be back to her silky smooth skin by the one month photo shoot.

That’s not the only skin condition that might catch you off guard, though.

Luckily, we’ve already tackled some of the other major ones for you:

  • Is diaper rash ruining your baby’s day?
  • Is eczema is leaving itchy red bumps all over her skin?
  • Is cradle cap scaling all over her beautiful, bald head?

When it comes to skin conditions, chances are, you’re facing something completely normal. Continue to keep your baby clean, apply treatments if necessary, and you should see improvements in no time.

As always, though, trust your gut. If something seems wrong or a condition continues to get worse, your pediatrician is just a phone call away.

Baby Question #5:
Why does my baby spit up constantly?

We ran the gamut of spitters in my house. One of my children, bless her soul, hardly spit up at all. The other two were a different story.

My son was the epitome of what they call a “Happy Spitter.” He spit up constantly. A totally disgusting amount.

However, he never seemed bothered and was still gaining weight normally. So, instead of worrying, we just stocked up on burp cloths (we don’t mess around and use hospital style receiving blankets), cleaned the wood floors a lot, and gave our washing machine a run for its money.

My first daughter was a different story. Her constant spit-up was only rivaled by her constant screaming, and we finally figured out that she wasn’t responding well to the dairy in my breastmilk.

Normal Spit-Up vs. GERD

Most babies spit up. But if you’ve got a trail of sour milk from your chin to your belly button for most of the day, you’re probably trying to determine whether or not you have a reflux problem on your hands.

Think about your baby’s temperament and development.

Here are some things that might point to a reflux problem:

  • Your baby spits up or vomits often. Like after almost every feeding.
  • Your baby is struggling to grow.
  • Your baby hates to eat and avoids feedings.
  • Your baby screams and cries for hours at a time.
  • Your baby seems to have a constant cold.
  • Spitting up starts closer to 6 months.

The good news is most babies outgrow GERD by the time they turn 1, but definitely talk to your pediatrician if you think that might be the issue (I also think this is a helpful resource if you’re concerned).

Spitting Up Due to Allergies

It’s also possible that a milk allergy is to blame for the all the spit up.

Babies with milk allergies tend to move normally up their growth charts (unlike those with reflux). These babies will probably still do a lot of screaming (my daughter’s voice is still raspy to this day) and will likely give you some particularly explosive diapers to change.

But don’t you worry, if allergies are to blame, a few other Mighty Moms have your back:

Find the Answers and Go Back to Sleep

There you have it, mama. The answers to all your most pressing 2 a.m. baby questions.

You can go to sleep now. The end.

Just kidding. Of course there isn’t an end to all your baby questions!

Fortunately, that’s what the Mighty Moms.club is all about. Answering your most pressing parenting questions…at any time of day.

You know another question you may be struggling with? One that we’ve ALL asked? Am I a good mother?

You, my friend, aren’t just a good mother. You are a Mighty Mother, and I’ve got the perfect way to prove it to you. Click here to download the free ebook 101 Ways to be an Awesome Mom. (I’ll bet you’re already doing most of them!

Now, I think it’s about time you put your phone down.

Go back to sleep.

You’ll solve all the world’s problems more efficiently if you’re well-rested anyway. *wink*

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