It’s not easy being a formula-using parent these days. There are emotional tags that society has placed on those who provide their child’s nutrition out of a can. Fortunately, I’m here to help you overcome those Cliffs of Insanity!
I’m going to go over the four problems for formula feeding that parents struggle over the most, and answer. each. one.
Ready to feel a gentle reassuring breeze of self-confidence blow your way?
Problems for Formula Feeding Parents #1:
Are We Second-Class Parents?
Breast is best.
I hate that phrase.
Not because it’s isn’t true. It IS true. Technically. From a simple nutritional perspective, breastmilk is the perfect food for your baby.
No, my problem with the phrase “Breast is best,” isn’t the phrase, it’s how that phrase is used.
Oftentimes there’s an agenda dangling unspoken from the other side of the period: “Breast is best. (And shame on you if you don’t give THE BEST to your baby…)”
It just feels too simple. Like you’re looking at life as a black-and-white photo where everything can be categorized into “Best” and “Worst.” But life is more like a Picasso than a paint-by-numbers project. It’s a beautifully complicated mess of colors that can take a while to “get.”
Sometimes breastfeeding fits the life-painting perfectly. Sometimes it doesn’t…and that’s okay.
If you struggling with feeling guilty or shameful about your feeding choice, I would encourage you to ask yourself three questions:
- Are you feeding your baby on a regular basis?
- Is your doctor comfortable with what you are feeding your baby?
- Are you meeting your baby’s physical and emotional needs?
These are the questions that really matter. If you can answer YES! to all three of those questions, everything else is gravy. 🙂
Problems for Formula Feeding Parents #2:
Did We Start with the Right Formula?
Once you’ve gotten past the emotional hurdles of using baby formula, you’re left with the next obvious question: Did I start with the right one? After all, there are hundreds. (And I’m not even counting the off-brands!)
As Lewis Carroll advises, the best place to start anything is at the beginning. Ask yourself a few basic questions.
How Important is the Word “Organic?”
If four out of the five fruits and vegetables in your fridge have an “organic” sticker on them, it makes sense that you’ll want to make your baby’s formula organic.
The problem with formula feeding an organic formula, though, is that there are so many organic options. I’ve found the clearest standard of the word “organic” is to steal from the Europeans.
Europe practices Biodynamic Organic Farming, which is like organic farming on steroids. (All natural steroids, of course.)
- The entire ecosystem of the farm is considered and maintained: soil, seeds, plants, animals, and humans.
- No pesticides or chemical fertilizers are used in the soil. (Just nature’s favorite fertilizer, poo.)
- There is no genetic modification of plants or animals (GMO’s).
- Certain processing practices (or ingredients) are also prohibited.
The best place for Americans to purchase European baby formulas is at Organic Baby Food based in Germany. You can buy the formula in bulk (which is cheaper) and they can send them over to you within just a few days.
For more information on how to read labels and purchase European baby formula, check out my other article 3 Reasons American Parents are Loving European Baby Formula.
How Important is the Word “Budget?”
If you are concerned about the impact of your baby’s formula on your budget, the best way to save money is to purchase standard formulas like Similac Optigro in bulk on Amazon and have it auto-shipped. (In that linked example, you can save $25 a month buying bulk over individual cans.)
How Important is the Word “Digestion?”
Your infant’s digestion will either give you a happy bubbly baby or an inconsolable screamer. Acid reflux, constipation, and gassiness are your worst enemies when it comes to contentment and sleep.
If your previous babies struggled with these issues, or if a family history makes you suspect it’s on the horizon, you may want to consider Kabrita’s Goat Milk Formula. Formulas adapted from goat’s milk (instead of cow’s milk) have been shown to form a lighter curd in the stomach, making digestion a LOT easier.
Plus, many parents have reported that their children preferred the naturally sweeter taste of goat’s milk. Currently Kabrita only makes a toddler formula, which means your child needs to be over 6 months old and supplementing with solid foods. If you’re interested, click here and try it for free.
The label says 12 to 24 months, but after a 2-hour discussion with the Kabrita nutritionist, I was told the formula is nutritionally balanced for any child over 6 months who has started supplementing their diet with solid foods.
Problems for Formula Feeding Parents #3:
When Should We Try a New Formula?
Once you’ve chosen the baby formula to try, the very next thought that’s going to flit through your head is inevitably: Would things be better if I switched to a different formula?
Some babies will happily drink anything, with hardly any unpleasant side effects. Other babies though, they’re like that food critic in Ratatouille: a Mr. Grumpy Pants who hates 99% of everything. The challenge is to find that mysterious 1% that fits him perfectly!
Here are the signs that a formula switch may be on your horizon:
- Draws legs into the tummy and cries really hard until passes gas.
- Is constantly constipated – the poop is thicker than peanut butter
- Burps or passes gas ALL the time
- Is much fussier than normal and has a strange rash (could be a formula allergy!)
- Spits up after almost every meal (check for acid reflux)
- Projectile vomits (shoots across the room like a hose)
- Is fine after eating, but will wake up screaming or gets really fussy about 20-30 minutes after eating.
Keeping a Feeding Journal
As you’re feeding him, jot down how much he’s eating, when, and any “side effects” later on. (Don’t worry, this isn’t forever! Just for a few weeks as you test out the formula.)
This feeding diary is very important for three reasons:
- Especially if you have a newborn, your doctor is going to want to know exactly how much he’s eating. You won’t just “remember.” Trust me. Your exhausted brain is tired. Write it down.
- Logging helps you spot rhythms and patterns to your day. These important clues can help you figure out why he’s crying.
- Tracking what he eats can be useful later, when you’re noticing he’s got diarrhea or constipation and you’re trying to figure out how that happened.
If you start to notice strange poo colors, if your baby starts arching his back, or shows other signs of discomfort, it may be time to take the next step in finding the perfect formula, which translates into our next “problem.”
Problems for Formula Feeding Parents #4:
Which Formulas Should We Switch To?
If you decide you need to make a switch, your next step on the “Perfect Baby Formula Path” would be to work your way up the brand’s ladder.
I would recommend taking three days when addressing the common problems for formula feeding.
- Day One: 25% New Formula, 75% Old Formula (or breastmilk)
- Day Two: 50% New Formula, 50% Old Formula (or breastmilk)
- Day Three: 75% New Formula, 25% Old Formula (or breastmilk)
- Day Four: 100% New Formula
This method reduces the amount of extra gas and discomfort that can happen when your baby is trying to digest a new type of formula.
No. More. Shame.
There’s a common thread woven throughout all four of those problems for formula feeding parents. Did you catch it?
Fear choosing the right formula, or knowing how to correct a mistake if you didn’t. There’s fear about whether or not you really are a good parent.
Let me ask you something. Do you feel like you have to start every baby-feeding conversation with “I didn’t make enough breastmilk…” or “I know I should have…” or find some other acceptable excuse for why you’re not the terrible formula-feeding mother you’re afraid everyone else assumes you are?
The truth is, breastfeeding is a feeding lifestyle. Yes, it’s a great way to love and care for your baby. It’s just not the only way to love and care for your baby.
I encourage moms to give it a try, but all parents have to weigh the pros and cons for that lifestyle by themselves.
You are more than just your feeding choice, whatever that choice is.
Doubt me? Take a look at that sweet slobbery smile.
He thinks you’re doing an awesome job.
What else matters? 🙂
Have You Read These Yet?’
- Clean Out Your Cauldron: The 4 Best Magic Baby Formulas for Acid Reflux
- The Battle of the Baby Formula Brands
- Feeling Guilty About Using Formula? Fight Back with This Strategy
- 3 Reasons American Parents are Loving European Baby Formulas
- Everything a New Mama Warrior Needs to Know About Baby Care
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Heather is the Chief Encouragement Officer here at MightyMoms.club and has been writing and encouraging parents online since 2007. She’s a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach, has been a featured parenting expert writer on blogs like DaveRamsey.com, SimpleKids.net, Cafe Mom, and others. If it’s 2am and you’re desperate to read SOMETHING, check out her deepest darkest secrets, including why she really shouldn’t be allowed to blog.